Sex Toy Reviews for Experimental Fuckers #5
Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Seeker
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The Adam & Eve Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Seeker (which Handmaiden simply calls the Seeker) is a non-vibrating dildo. Adam & Eve sent me this toy during my time as a Brand Champion on Sex Forums in exchange for an honest review. The Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Seeker arrived in a clear package but now comes in a tin box like the original Sqweel. I’m glad the packaging changed because it wasn’t discreet at all. This toy comes with a satiny storage pouch that should protect the dildo from collecting hair and dust, which it does very easily if left out or simply tossed in a drawer.
Because the toy collects debris so easily, I would highly recommend cleaning it both before and after each use. My fiancé and I have two cats, and the toy collecting debris is something we certainly deal with. I had barely removed the toy from the packaging to take pictures of it before there was already cat hair on it. It’s a real hair and dust magnet, so I’m going to have to wash it off before putting it away, and I didn’t even use it this time.
This dildo is available in only one color – a two-tone purple combination. It looks like the letter “C” and stimulates the vagina internally, especially the G-spot, while providing external clitoral stimulation. The longer arm of the toy is the insertable arm and goes into the vagina. The dildo curves so that the nubs on the inner side of the longer arm rub against the G-spot.
The external part of the Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Seeker (the shorter arm) provides nubs that stimulate the clitoris.
This toy is “ideal for the EXPERIENCED USER.” I believe that statement is accurate because I have a hard time using this toy and have plenty of experience with sex toys.
This toy has an “ergonomic handy-grip” handle, which is held between the middle and ring fingers. The handle shows the Handmaiden logo.
When holding the dildo correctly, it should rest in the palm of the hand against the inside of the fingers.
The handle should allow the user to “[r]each all your erogenous zones at once, with greater precision, ease and comfort.” I didn’t find this toy ergonomic, precise, easy, or comfortable to use. Thrust the Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Seeker into the vagina using the motion of the whole hand and wrist. I haven’t gotten the hang of holding this toy the intended way. I suffer from Carpal Tunnel Syndrome, so this toy is difficult for me to use. Holding it the intended way fatigues my hand and wrist, which doesn’t allow me to use this toy for longer periods of time. I like the idea of the handle in theory. I honestly think it’s a good idea, but this design makes the handle uncomfortable and awkward, and I don’t think it’s big enough on the inside of my fingers to stay in place. I don’t have enough strength in my middle and ring fingers to squeeze hard enough to hold the toy, and I’d like more control over the toy’s movement. Just trying to hold it using my middle and ring fingers to take pictures is awkward, so inserting the toy and attempting to thrust with it is next to impossible.
Handmaiden states that the Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Seeker has 4″ of insertable length. I found (using a tape measure) that the insertable arm is about 6″ long from handle to tip along the outside curve of the arm, and only about 3.5-4″ of its entire available length is insertable. I measured the insertable length along the inside seam of the arm from the tip to the middle of the curve. The longer arm is almost 5″ around (girth) at the widest point, but I’ve never been able to insert the arm that far.
This toy is waterproof and needs no batteries. It has no moving parts and doesn’t vibrate.
My first impression of the Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Seeker was that it was smaller than I had imagined it would be. However, I was actually glad that it’s smaller in length because the toy is rather girthy and thick. Besides, stimulating the G-Spot doesn’t require much length as the G-spot is only a few inches inside the vagina. I had a difficult time inserting the dildo all the way, and the silicone is so stiff! Even with a handle, this toy is hard for me to control, and I couldn’t really hit the right spots. I tried using it laying on my back in bed, sitting on the side of the tub with both legs outside the tub, and riding it with a pillow underneath me. I needed both hands to stretch the “C” open and insert the longer arm into my vagina, and once inserted, the toy kept popping out. I remember thinking that I shouldn’t have to work so hard to get off. Lube is a must with this toy because it’s silicone, but the caveat is that lube makes the silicone very slippery and even more difficult to control. The Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Seeker’s silicone is a nonporous material, so it doesn’t absorb lube. Keep lube away from the handle.
At first, I thought the handle was an ingenious idea. However, it doesn’t make the toy any easier to hold or operate. Unless I’m squeezing my middle and ring fingers together hard to hold the toy in place while I thrust, it’s going to move around, and I found it difficult to keep the toy where I wanted it and to keep it from popping out of me and repeatedly struggled to reinsert it. The problem is that the handle is too thin and flimsy and bends more easily than the toy. I have a feeling that the issue of control could be solved if the body of the toy was a bit more flexible. I also believe the thinness of the handle has something to do with the lack of control. The handle could probably even be made into a round shape that could be held more easily instead of a thin shape that fits between the fingers. It’s just awkward. I can’t think of a better word to describe it. I don’t know of any other sex toy – or any other object, for that matter – that is held the same way as the Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Seeker.
This toy is flexible but not flexible enough. It’s made of 100% medical grade, phthalate-free silicone, which is nonporous, so I can sanitize it. It’s soft and silky to the touch and very slippery when lubricated. The Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Seeker doesn’t follow my body’s natural contours and is uncomfortable – even slightly painful – to use. The silicone is sturdy, but I cannot see using this toy in an energetic way. Hard or fast thrusting with the dildo seems like it would be unpleasant. I have found that riding the toy works a bit better than trying to hold the handle between my fingers. I was most successful when I knelt on the bed with a pillow folded in half between my knees and the Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Seeker nestled in the pillow so that I could lower myself onto it, positioning it inside me with both hands. The clitoral stimulator does not rub against my clitoris but provides more of a poking, pinpoint pressure that also feels uncomfortable. I usually can barely get the two nubs on the insertable arm inside me while the tip of the external arm stabs against my clit, and most of the nubs don’t come close enough to touch it. I demonstrated using my fiancé’s Fleshlight.
Yes, the silicone is that stiff. I need both hands to bend this toy.
I like enough girth for a little stretch, but the rigidity of the Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Seeker provides too much internal pressure. Believe it or not, I did reach orgasm relatively quickly this way while playing with my nipples. However, I was not using the toy as prescribed. This dildo is definitely a toy for advanced sex toy users.
There are three other versions of this toy: the Silicone Handmaiden Anal Dong (also called the Slim) in light blue, the Silicone Handmaiden Dong (called The Original on the packaging in the picture below) in pink, and the Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Thrill (also simply called the Thrill) in two-tone blue.
The Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Seeker has the shortest insertable length, and the Thrill is the longest. Handmaiden sold all four versions for $50 each, but Adam & Eve was selling the Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Seeker for around $35 when they sent me one. I think that’s a reasonable price for this toy based on the fact that it’s made of silicone, a quality sex toy material, but doesn’t perform well. I have to say that the nubs and handle are both good ideas in theory but aren’t effective. I like silicone toys in general, but the lack of flexibility and control ruin the Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Seeker for me. I’m sure this toy is someone’s cup of tea, but it isn’t mine. Sex Toy Geek wrote a more positive review at first but later followed up by saying that she hadn’t touched this toy since she reviewed it. The Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Seeker ended up on her Swap List. I swapped mine with a woman who sent me the Aneros Evi in exchange.
Cleaning and care tip:
The Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Seeker will not collect bacteria when properly washed and cared for. Because this toy is waterproof, it is easy to clean using soap and water. Boil this 100% silicone dildo to sanitize it. Another option is wiping it down with toy cleaner, a wet wipe, or a 10% bleach solution. Allow the dildo to air dry as using a towel will leave lint behind. Always store the Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Seeker in the satiny storage pouch when the toy is not in use.
Lube is a must with this toy. However, because it is silicone, silicone-based lubes are not recommended. Unfortunately, silicone-based lubes can degrade or damage silicone sex toys. Use a water-based lubricant with this dildo.
- It’s made of 100% medical grade silicone, which is easy to keep clean, slick when lubricated, and nonporous. Silicone can also be chilled or warmed for temperature play.
- It’s phthalate- and latex-free.
- It’s hypoallergenic (except for the cat hair that inevitably clings to it).
- Clean the Silicone Handmaiden G-Spot Seeker with soap and water, on the top rack of the dishwasher without detergent, by boiling it, or using a 10% bleach solution.
- Once it’s sanitized, this toy is safe to share.
- Batteries aren’t required.
- This toy is waterproof for use in the tub or shower.
- There are three other versions of this dildo.
- It comes with a satiny drawstring storage pouch to protect the toy from collecting debris.
- The nubs on both arms stimulate the G-spot and clitoris at the same time.
- It’s flexible but not flexible enough, which can make it uncomfortable or even slightly painful to use.
- While silicone is one of my favorite sex toy materials, it’s not appropriate to use silicone-based lubricants with this toy.
- It collects debris very easily, so I highly recommend washing this toy both before and after each use.
- Even with the handle, this dildo is difficult to control, which means that it might not provide consistent stimulation. I think redesigning the handle would improve this toy.
If flexibility is problematic, if hand strength is lacking, if the vagina is especially tight, or if the G-spot is harder to reach, then this toy probably will not provide as much pleasure as expected.